MARRIAGE SERIES, PART 3.
Matthew 6:22-23
The lamp of the body is the eye. If therefore your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in you is darkness, how great is that darkness!
You know they say that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, a critical look at that statement reveals the truth that the beholder has the responsibility to create for himself the beauty and to hold that beauty in manner that will entertain any competing factor!
Fourteen years ago today, i got my turn around in a manner i least expected and it's a story i will never get tired of telling;
My wife was 8 months pregnant for my first daughter (Chiazotam) and i was on my way to a traditional wedding in Auchi, with my 'girl friend' and on the way we had an accident and she later died in the hospital.
In this period of confusion and despair, i met Jesus Christ who literarily spoke to my heart and i made a decision to have Him as my Lord and Saviour and to serve Him for the rest of my life!
When i came home on the third day after that accident and my three day sojourn at Aviele, the place of the accident, i met my wife sitting outside the house waiting for my return (each time i tell this story i really wonder what would have happened to my wife if i died in that accident) and there and then, i realise the beauty in her ( her pure intentions and desire to have us grow a good union in love and respect for each other).
This event completely changed my life, my eyes were not single, they were not good and my whole body was full of darkness prior to this event and now i know that having multiple sex partners is the harbinger or distraction and destruction in a marriage union.
As long as you keep going outside for sexual pleasures, you will not appreciate the beauty in your wife and make no mistakes, i am not talking about physical beauty here because that also has deceived so many men into misplacing their priorities and thinking that physical beauty comes first.
You can work on the physical from the internal, when you realise the inherent and innate qualities of your wife, then you can lovingly curate the physical beauty that suits your desire.
Make no mistakes, any woman, i repeat any woman who sleeps with any man, knowing his marital status is not worth giving priority over your wife.(this also goes for a man). She can't also be trusted to keep it straight when the time comes.
Do you know why you find faults with your wife always? It's because your eyes are not single, you have huge darkness in you and because you spend your energy jumping from one woman to the other, confusion has set in and you now have competing images struggling in your head and your wife is made to bear the brunt!
I made the decision 14 years ago, to keep myself for my wife and to remain faithful through the help of God and do you know what? I identified her beauty from the inside, i don't have competing and conflicting female images in my head, she is the only one and all my energy has been channeled towards making her the woman that appeals to me.
What you see of my wife today is the deliberate work from a man who has realised that God can help make all the difference and that loving a woman in fidelity is the greatest quality available to man.
Your wife is not the problem, you are! Shut down on those external union killers and you will see her differently.
YOUR WIFE ULTIMATELY BECOMES WHAT YOU THINK OF HER,
YOU CAN MAKE HER BEAUTIFUL,
YOU CAN MAKE YOUR FOCUS SINGLE,
JESUS CAN HELP YOU!
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